Of all the times I’ve talked in my Conquest
articles, I’ve never gotten right down to brass tacks about a Believer being married to an unbeliever. It’s Danger
with a capital "D." I’ll omit the question marks; too many in this case.
First, consider the newly married, together constantly. How can a
person be entirely content if the home smells of tobacco, or alcohol that means beer in the refrigerator, or drugs and the
anxiety when the police drive by the home. Is one lover of pets and the other, not. Won’t there be a division of love
there, and can the mate stand hair in and on the couch and in the bed?
And how do you entertain visitors. Do you offer them a beer instead of coffee? Will they
wonder about the religious pictures on the walls and the Bible near your chair. If they stay for a meal, will they, or you,
be uncomfortable if you say a blessing over the food.
As for day to day, year to year time together, will both understand and allow tithing and offerings
to a church, and will there be a "home" church that both attend.
will conversations be clean, or filled with foul language or dirty talk.
Was the "children or no children" discussed and decided
before marriage, and how will you deal with one or the other changing his or her mind.
And with children, will you take them to church regularly. Even when both parents consider themselves Christians, but
are of different denominations, will it work out.
Do both agree on the type of TV to watch. And where do you go on a night out…the big dance or a church barbecue.
If the budget is such that vacations are taken, will it be Las Vegas or a trip to the Holy Land.
My dear young people…you can’t imagine
the differences you two must agree on. And don’t think you’re going to "change" your mate. What’s
in question will only get worse. The only decision that can be greater, is in accepting Christ. You must choose a mate you
can live with…and die with…in peace and comfort.